Meltdowns & emotional regulation
Meltdowns aren't tantrums. The way you respond to them matters.
Practical support for parents of children whose big emotions are running the house, from a UK-qualified teacher with over ten years' experience working with children and their families, including seven in a school SENCo team.
A meltdown in a neurodivergent child isn’t wilful; it’s the result of a nervous system that has exceeded its capacity. The child isn’t choosing it. But that doesn’t make it any easier to live with, especially when it happens daily.
The most effective strategies are preventative: understanding the build-up that happens 20–30 minutes before the explosion, identifying the triggers that are hiding in plain sight and adjusting the environment so the threshold is never reached. Laura works with parents to build exactly this: practical, specific and built around your child.
The difference between meltdown and tantrum
Tantrum
- → Goal-directed (wants something)
- → Child is aware of audience
- → Stops when goal is achieved
- → Child can be reasoned with
Meltdown
- → Nervous system overwhelm
- → Child has lost regulatory capacity
- → Runs its course regardless
- → Reasoning makes it worse
Big Feelings →
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